This is a follow-up post from Meet My Explosive Child post.
Seeking help for our explosive child seems like it would be easy, right?
I mean, if you’re an adult, you know how you are feeling and can call the appropriate doctor; your primary care physician if it’s medical, a therapist if you feel its mental.
For children, it is so much harder for them to explain to you what is going on that seeking help for them is nearly impossible.
We shared B’s behavior with family and friends and sought out any advice and tips we could get. We really had no idea where to start, but with all the information we gathered, we started our game plan.
1. Dentist – We took B in for his dental exam and to make sure there was nothing orally wrong with him that could be causing sleep issues.
2. Doctor/Pediatrician – We took B in, essentially, for a physical. After a physical, they stated they did not find any medical health concerns and that neurologically he appeared healthy. Our doctor’s recommendation was to see a therapist (which we already had scheduled.)
3. Therapist – With children, you can’t just call on any therapist; you need to seek a therapist who has education and experience working with children.
We took him to a therapist to see what a professional thought. Unfortunately, they didn’t give me much to go on.
(A) The therapist claimed to be a child therapist, but when it came down to it – he was a therapist who had experience with children. He did not actual do child therapy. Therefore, he recommended we seek a play therapist for B (which there are very few of in our state.)
(B) He provided me a handful of diagnoses that he thought we would find, but that he couldn’t assess that.
In short, a therapist in our situation was a dead end. (Although I do recommend still seeking a therapist’s opinion if you are facing child behaviors.)
4. Child psychologist – Our journey to find a child psychologist took us about 3 months. Finding a child therapist was difficult. Find a child psychologist felt like it would never happen.
We hoped this would be the end all to our journey. Answers. Treatment.
The child psychologist was able to assess B.
We met with him 3 times; the first time as a family to discuss our concerns. The second time B went alone and did the assessment screening. The last time was as a family to hear that the child psychologist deemed B to have severe ADHD.
We discussed what ADHD was, treatment options, had our questions answered, and were educated.
That is the last we heard from the child psychologist (even after repeated emails and phone calls.)
As part of treatment, we were informed that we could do therapy (which we are in the process of setting up) and or medication (in my opinion, medication should always be paired with therapy for best results).
The only way to get medication for a mental health disorder was going to be –
5. Child psychiatrist – This has been the most difficult of the entire journey. I lost count of the tears cried and the frustration yelled at not being able to find what we needed.
Finding a child psychiatrist – ha! Such a laughing matter. (It pains me to know that there are so few mental health options for children.)
Finding a child psychiatrist that had openings without a 3 month wait list? A joke.
After trying for 2 months, we finally had our insurance put out a call to all vendors. Fortunately, with that call to vendors, we ended up finding a child psychiatrist with an opening in the very near future.
Our first visit with the child psychiatrist was again, an assessment, but we had some new answers to consider too.
The journey will continue in another post so as not to overwhelm.
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